Previously in our last blog, A Time of Trust, we explored Trustworthy Foundations and what can grow from a bedrock of reliability and interdependence and expand into something far greater than the sum of its parts. Continuing from where we left off, we go on to expound on the state of Trust today, online and offline, and where we can go next…
Social Networking – The Virtual World
Social Networking is synonymous to Sharing. Connected people today share everything from share vacation pictures, recipes, buying goods and services and more. The world has shrunk to a quarter of it’s size when it comes to networking. It is so easy to become friends with someone living halfway across the world and trust them like you have known them your whole life.
But at the same time, it is also true that often we do not know who lives next door to us! According to a 2015 Pew Research Study, only about one-half of Americans trust their neighbors. Amongst those, Whites, Seniors and Wealthy are more likely to trust their neighbors compared to others.
Do you wonder why that is the case? Real world does not work the same way as the virtual world! Real-life does not have a constant stream of Messages and Notifications, to show who “Liked” what you said or “Liked” what you did. Neither does it have messages popping up over your smart phones recommending “Friend Suggestions.”
So be careful since mistakes can be costly. If you are careless with your trust you might end up being in trouble and full of regrets. That is today’s reality! So when you need a trustworthy person who you can reach out to, finding him or her can still be like finding a needle in a haystack despite that huge virtual network you’ve got at your fingertips.
Building Trust – Unplugged
As we discussed in our previous blog ‘s reference to the trust-o-meter, Social trust is primarily determined by 3 factors: Honesty, Integrity and Dependability. Building trust with a person, in the real world, is as much of a real world interactive experience and takes time.
While the virtual, online world, can establish relations easily – building trust with a real person, a human, takes a lot more effort. And a large part of the process, is still embedded the the core principles mentioned above.
So what do you do ?
Trusted Circles for the Real World
You build a network of people who you know in person, those you know you can rely on, as well as those they know in person. Bring each other together. This is your Trust Circle. Trust is about keeping promises, being on time and being responsible for your actions. There is no better way to demonstrate that, than in the trusted circles you create.
Your actions and ability to do things for each other, help build trust over time. Actions beyond “Likes”. Like helping each other in the real world. This approach helps build communities that are integrative. As trust compounds from interaction and co-dependent activities, so does the strength of the Circle. Extrapolate this trust-strengthened community towns, villages and nations, and that dream of a world that is more trustworthy starts getting a bit more real.
And with a more trustworthy world, we can also make it a kinder, more loving place for ourselves and our children.